Weight loss has traditionally been approached in a masculine manner. This means you count calories or fat grams, exercise intensely, believe in ‘no pain, no gain’, watch the scale, and focus on the end goal to the exclusion of the process. It is a linear, goal oriented method based on will, and reliance on numbers. This is old, outdated, negative, and not very nice to your body. Our emphasis has long been on left-brained weight loss, and success is measured by the number on the scale. And where has this gotten us? Fat. It has gotten us fat. We became yo-yo dieters when we could no longer tolerate the dietary restrictions foisted upon us by the newest diet guru, and were driven to eat all the yummy ‘bad foods’ that were verboten while we were on the diet. Did you know that 99% of all people who lose weight on a ‘willpower’ diet gain it back (and maybe even more) within a year?
Who’s ready for a better way? Taking a more feminine approach to weight loss emphasizes nourishment over nutrition, body movement over exercise, and eating with awareness over willpower. This is about self-care, self-acceptance and self-love. We let go of the scale (really!), demand pleasure in food, find our natural appetite, and love ourselves into change. We become intuitive eaters, listening to the signals our bodies give when hungry, and when our bodies need something other than food. This is a positive, life affirming strategy for true transformation. The feminine approach focuses on the journey, the unpredictable, sensual, intuitive journey that we’re on.
We spend so much time fighting our bodies into change. We need to spend more time loving it into change. A great question to ask yourself in any situation is “What is the most self-loving thing I can do here?” Putting yourself first is not being selfish. Putting yourself first is a win-win situation—I take care of myself so I can assist you. Being selfish is winning over someone else (and secretly—or not so secretly— gloating).
Contact me for a free 20 minute consultation if you’re ready to try a more feminine way to weight loss. This is not about men vs. women. This is strictly about the way we approach weight loss. It’s time for a change.